NTOA Command College

   
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Frequently
Always
1
I explore issues with others so as to find solutions that meet everyone’s needs.
2
I try to negotiate and adopt a give-and-take approach to problem situations.
3
I try to meet the expectations of others.
4
I would argue my case and insist on the merits of my point of view.
5
When there is a disagreement, I gather as much information as I can and keep the lines of communication open.
6
When I find myself in an argument, I usually say very little and try to leave as soon as possible.
7
I try to see conflicts from both sides. What do I need? What does the other person Need? What are the issues involved?
8
I prefer to compromise when solving problems and just move on.
9
I find conflicts challenging and exhilarating; I enjoy the battle of wits that usually follows.
10
Being at odds with other people makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious.
11
I try to accommodate the wishes of my friends and family.
12
I can figure out what needs to be done and I am usually right.
13
To break deadlocks, I would meet people halfway.
14
I may not get what I want but it’s a small price to pay for keeping the peace.
15
I avoid hard feelings by keeping my disagreements with others to myself.

Source: Thomas, K.W. and R.H. Kilmann, 1974, The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, Tuxedo, NY: XICOM, Inc.

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